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Katherine Langford Gives Life Advice | Ask W

In this episode of 'Ask W', actress Katherine Langford ('13 Reasons Why', 'Love, Simon') gives life advice on double texting, being on the giving side and receiving end of ghosting, moving too fast in a relationship, how to deal with being homesick, what to do when your boyfriend doesn't post pics of you on IG, and how to handle your colleague's inappropriate Instagram posts.

Released on 6/29/2018

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Starring: Katherine Langford

Transcript

00:00
Gosh.
00:01
We're definitely gonna preface this by saying,
00:02
yo, this is not an expert opinion.
00:05
This is just off the top of my head.
00:07
Hi, my name's Katherine Langford,
00:09
and I'm gonna try and give you some advice.
00:12
I'm about to spill the tea.
00:15
Yeah?
00:16
Okay, cool.
00:17
Is double texting okay?
00:19
Kelly, from Santa Monica.
00:21
Duh, of course.
00:23
(laughing)
00:24
Double text, triple text, quadruple text.
00:26
Also, do the thing where you text someone,
00:28
and then they get a message on Instagram,
00:29
and then they'll hit you back up on Facebook.
00:31
Like, just do it.
00:33
Who cares?
00:34
Just, yeah, do it.
00:36
I've been texting back and forth
00:37
with a girl I'm interested in,
00:39
and she's stopped responding all of a sudden.
00:41
I looked back at our messages,
00:43
and there isn't anything offensive,
00:44
and it has all been light-hearted and joking.
00:47
What do you think I should do?
00:49
Theo, Newport Beach.
00:52
Don't stress.
00:54
Don't stress, man.
00:56
Depends what kind of relationship you're looking for,
00:58
or what the situation is,
00:59
or what the dynamic is,
01:00
but I mean, I don't wanna be like harsh,
01:04
and break someone's heart, so.
01:06
What is your take on ghosting?
01:08
Okay or not okay?
01:09
Lauren, Venice.
01:10
Oof.
01:11
I don't believe in ghosting.
01:12
I kinda didn't know what the term ghosting meant
01:15
until earlier today.
01:18
It's definitely no fun to be on the receiving end of,
01:21
but I think it all comes down to circumstances.
01:23
Like if you're polite.
01:24
Like, I know, as a young woman,
01:26
I've had friends have to do that,
01:28
because they're being very inappropriately pursued,
01:31
and in that case, they had to get rid of everything,
01:34
so it's all down to the situation,
01:38
but overall, be polite and courteous to other people.
01:43
Think about how they feel.
01:45
My boyfriend, oh my gosh, okay.
01:47
This is important.
01:48
This is an important question.
01:50
My boyfriend never posts pictures of me on Instagram.
01:54
I don't think he's doing it on purpose to look single,
01:56
but it still makes me feel like he's trying to hide me.
01:59
What do I do or say?
02:01
Anonymous.
02:02
This is a really important question,
02:05
and it's a really valid question,
02:07
'cause you should never feel hidden in a relationship.
02:11
You should always feel included.
02:12
Like, in my humble opinion.
02:15
I think it's also totally appropriate
02:18
to have a conversation about it,
02:19
or let them know,
02:20
because again, like you said,
02:22
he may not be trying to do it on purpose,
02:23
but if you let him know that you don't wanna be hidden,
02:25
maybe there's ways that he can make you feel more included,
02:29
and it doesn't necessarily have to be on Instagram,
02:31
but however that is.
02:32
You know, whether it's like holding your hand in the street
02:35
or introducing you to his friends,
02:37
but you should never be hidden, ever.
02:42
My close friend is moving in
02:43
with her boyfriend of six months,
02:45
even though she's never been to his apartment.
02:47
They live in the same city.
02:49
What can I say that supports her,
02:51
but discourages her from making this mistake?
02:53
Alita, Oakland.
02:54
If you haven't spoken to her,
02:56
or speak to her and say,
02:58
maybe see the apartment, or try it for a week,
03:03
or travel together.
03:05
Test run it before you move in fully,
03:07
or before you give up the place that you're staying at,
03:09
so that you have a safety,
03:11
so that you're not in a position
03:12
where you have to stay with someone,
03:14
because of other circumstances.
03:16
I am studying abroad,
03:17
and have been really missing home and my friends.
03:20
What helps you most when you get homesick?
03:22
Hendrix, from Salt Lake City.
03:24
Oh.
03:25
I think I'm still figuring that one out,
03:27
but it definitely helps to make
03:30
whatever space you're in yours,
03:33
however you can do that,
03:34
whether it's bringing a pillow,
03:36
or bringing a candle,
03:37
but also talking to your friends.
03:40
There are some apps where you can just send your friends
03:42
really quick photos and it helps
03:44
when you get to have small doses of their lives
03:47
and them, even if you're away from home.
03:51
My co-worker, a young woman,
03:52
shares really scandalous, thirsty posts on Instagram,
03:56
and I think it's really inappropriate.
03:58
Should I say something?
03:59
Michaela, Rochester.
04:01
Girl, like, you do you.
04:03
She can do her.
04:04
That's your opinion,
04:05
but go live your life.
04:07
I don't care.
04:08
I love a bit of.
04:09
(woman laughing)
04:10
Be thirsty, and get quenched.
04:12
(woman laughing)
04:13
Um. Okay!
04:14
[Katherine] Okay.