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Daveed Diggs Gives Life Advice

In this episode of 'Ask W', actor Daveed Diggs gives advice on incorporating lyrics into a marriage proposal, conquering stage fright, which albums to add to your vinyl collection, ghosting, bold clothing on shy people, advice for your younger self, and dating a close friend's ex.

Released on 6/22/2018

Credits

Starring: Daveed Diggs

Transcript

00:00
Hi, my name's Daveed
00:01
and I am going to be helping people
00:04
with their questions that they've asked.
00:06
The most useful advice any of you have ever gotten?
00:09
I have a column coming out, in a newspaper,
00:12
[Woman] which they don't exist. You don't have
00:12
enough to do, you have to find more hobbies.
00:15
Yeah.
00:16
My girlfriend is a major Hamilton fan
00:19
and I want to incorporate a lyric
00:20
from show into my proposal.
00:22
What lyric should I choose?
00:23
Michael from Boston.
00:25
Damn, Michael.
00:26
You know way more Hamilton lyrics than I do, at this point.
00:30
(laughs)
00:31
So, I have forgotten way more
00:34
than I remember about that show.
00:35
All I can think of is that you want her to just end with
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I do, I do, I do, I do.
00:40
I want to be a singer when I grow up,
00:42
but I get nervous to perform in front of people.
00:44
How do I get over my stage fright?
00:46
This is Zoe from Brooklyn who is eight years old.
00:48
Zoe, I also get nervous every time I perform,
00:51
I'm nervous right now.
00:53
What I'm doing right now that hopefully
00:54
you can't see off the camera is,
00:56
I'm playing with my rings a lot.
00:58
So, one thing that I do before I get on stage
01:01
is I try to, try to jump around,
01:04
so I used to run track and the only way
01:07
I know how to warm up is by doing something physical,
01:09
so I, like, run around and get my heart rate up really fast
01:12
and make sure I can feel like I'm doing something.
01:15
And sometimes that makes me less nervous.
01:18
And then I also just try to remember
01:21
that I really actually love what I'm doing,
01:24
and it sounds like you probably
01:25
really love being on stage too,
01:27
and so all you have to do is get out there.
01:29
Once you're out there, the rest will take care of itself.
01:32
I am trying to expand my vinyl collection.
01:35
What are the top five albums I need to add to my collection?
01:38
David from Los Angeles.
01:39
Dang.
01:41
This is a great question.
01:43
The answers to this would change for me everyday,
01:46
but I would say Rufusized by Rufus and Chaka Khan,
01:50
probably Uncle Jam Wants You, Funkadelic,
01:55
Good Kid, M.A.A.D City or Damn by Kendrick Lamar.
01:58
You need a Prince album in there, if you don't have one,
02:01
you could kind of take your pick
02:04
but, you know, Dirty Mind is a good one.
02:06
Today we will say,
02:09
Dukey Stick by George Duke.
02:11
What is your take on ghosting?
02:14
Okay or not okay?
02:15
Lauren from Venice, California.
02:17
I am old enough that I am only
02:19
peripherally sure I know what ghosting is.
02:22
But I'm gonna say with most things like that,
02:25
there are probably moments when ghosting is appropriate.
02:28
(laughs)
02:29
But you gotta look at the root causes, like everything else.
02:32
Can shy people wear bold clothing?
02:34
Jamie from Las Vegas.
02:36
I pretty much exclusively wear bold clothing
02:40
and I'm probably the shyest person you've met.
02:43
So, I hope the answer to that is yes,
02:45
or I've been doing it wrong.
02:46
I used to rock, like, a orange jumpsuit quite a bit,
02:50
like one of those flight suits.
02:51
I used to rock this tiger fur coat
02:53
with a huge purple bow tie and, like, no shirt.
02:57
I was getting it in.
02:58
Yeah and here's the great thing
03:00
about wearing bold clothing when you're shy
03:03
is that people wanna talk about your clothes and not you.
03:05
It's actually sort of the best armor you can have.
03:08
One of my employees called in sick,
03:09
but then posted a picture of herself
03:11
on a beach on Instagram Stories.
03:13
It was clearly live.
03:15
Do I call them out on it?
03:17
Gabi from Valencia.
03:18
Yeah!
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(laughs)
03:20
I am, why wouldn't you?
03:22
But you should wait.
03:23
You should wait, you should wait and do it,
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you know, when they're not expecting it.
03:27
Like, sometime when you're just hanging out,
03:29
or, like, in the middle of a meeting.
03:30
I don't know what you do,
03:31
but if there's sometime when
03:32
you're totally doing something else
03:34
and then just mention something about
03:36
being on the beach on Instagram.
03:38
I think that's the way to do it.
03:40
If you talk to your 18-year-old self,
03:42
what is the most important piece of advice you would give?
03:45
Tonia from Salt Lake City.
03:47
I would say stop worrying about the timeline.
03:51
When I was 18,
03:53
and then again when I was 21,
03:55
and when I was 25 and when I was 30, you know,
03:57
I sort of had this feeling that
04:00
I need to make it by a certain point.
04:03
And I didn't even know what making it meant, you know?
04:05
But I've wasted a lot of time in my life
04:07
being stressed about the when of things
04:09
and I think that time is better spent just doing things.
04:13
So that's my advice.
04:15
What do you do if you don't like one of your nephews?
04:17
Kurt from Seattle.
04:19
(laughs)
04:24
Kurt, man.
04:25
Well, the thing about family is
04:26
that you're family, regardless, right?
04:28
So, there's that, but it depends on the degree of not like.
04:33
So like, if they're annoying to you, or whatever,
04:36
you can cope with that and you check in and out with them,
04:39
but maybe just don't invite them over everyday.
04:43
You hang out with them, like, every other day, or something.
04:45
Yeah, there's definitely been members of my family who were,
04:47
like, being around them was detrimental to my safety
04:51
and they don't, you can cut them out, actually.
04:55
They will still be your family, can still love them,
04:56
but you don't have to talk to them.
04:58
(laughs)
05:00
How long do you have to wait
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before dating a close friend's ex?
05:03
For context, they dated for three months.
05:05
It was barely a relationship.
05:06
Is he still off-limits?
05:07
Yelena from San Francisco.
05:09
I mean, it sounds like you've
05:10
already made your decision, Yelena. (laughs)
05:13
Real talk, it sounds like you're already dating,
05:15
so I don't know why you're asking me.
05:17
(laughs)
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[Woman] You've saved the world! (laughs)