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Dakota Fanning Gives Life Advice

In the first-ever episode of 'Ask W', actress Dakota Fanning gives advice on moving in with your partner without ever seeing their place beforehand, telling your friend their partner just hit on you, being on time for appointments, socializing at work, going to a destination wedding you don't approve of, declining a bridesmaid offer, calling out sick employees, and accidentally liking your crush's Instagram.

Released on 6/19/2018

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Starring: Dakota Fanning

Transcript

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Hi, my name is Dakota Fanning,
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and I am here to give you advice.
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I love this.
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I love doing this.
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Okay, so first question is from Aleta from Oakland.
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My close friend is moving in with her boyfriend
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of six months, even though she's
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never been to his apartment.
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They live in the same city.
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What can I say that supports her,
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but discourages her from making this mistake?
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I think you just tell her that's a bad idea.
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I would just simply tell her, If you've
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never been to his apartment, why do you
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think that's a good idea to move in?
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I'm very just, frank like that.
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So, I would just say it.
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That sounds nuts to me.
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(director laughs)
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They live in the same city, she's never been
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to his apartment, and they're moving in?
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No.
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Nuts.
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Okay, next.
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Should you tell your friend her
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husband made a pass at you?
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Debbie from Queens.
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No, Debbie, I don't think you should.
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I don't think, I think that's dangerous territory.
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Or, if you are, if it was something
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that really made you uncomfortable,
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and you want your friend to know,
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I think probably, be prepared to lose
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that friend for at least a while.
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It's just like, in a marriage, I feel,
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they could turn on you.
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Not that that's right, but I feel like
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the person that's gonna get turned on might be Debbie.
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So, tread carefully, Debbie from Queens.
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My friend is always late to meet me
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whenever we have plans.
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It drives me crazy.
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Should I just start being late for our plans as well?
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Sarah, NYC.
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I am the wrong person to ask,
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or maybe I am the right person to ask.
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I'm never late, and if I am late,
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like, something has happened.
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Like, something has happened to me.
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I'm definitely neurotic about being early
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or on time, just 'cause I feel like
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it's so disrespectful to be late.
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I don't think that Sarah should start
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being late for the plans, 'cause I don't
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think two wrongs make a right,
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but I think you could tell your friend that she's a flake.
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(laughs)
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Shanifa in New York City.
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Her questions is, A new coworker spends all day
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socializing with others, and never seems
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to sit down and actually do work.
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It drives me crazy.
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How do I tell him to buzz off without offending anyone?
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I just love that she says, buzz off.
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In this situation, using humor is always a good idea.
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Like, Hey, you never really seem to be
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doing any of your work.
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I, cause it's
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you can be offensive if you,
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especially if it's just a coworker.
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It's not like she's his boss.
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So maybe using humor to insinuate
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that you want him to buzz off.
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My friend is marrying a man all of her friends hate.
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She's having a really expensive destination wedding.
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Are we obligated to go and support her,
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even though we aren't fans of the relationship?
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Am I a bad person if I white lie?
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Coralee from New York City.
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Yeah, you're obligated to go and support her.
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Yeah, I think.
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You have to.
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You know, it's her decision.
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This is the choice that she's made.
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Unless you feel that she's in physical danger
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from being with this person,
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I think that you just have to go.
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Okay, A friend of mine from high school
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asked me to be a bridesmaid.
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We aren't very close anymore.
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We see each other once a year around the holidays
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at most, and don't talk frequently.
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To be honest, I was shocked to be included.
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Can I decline the offer?
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Lauren from Washington, D.C.
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No!
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No, you can't.
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That's rude. (laughs)
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That is really rude.
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When somebody asked you to be in their wedding,
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I don't think you can say no.
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I think that's, I wouldn't say no.
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I think that I might think it was kind of weird,
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but I, you know what I would do?
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I would say that I couldn't.
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[Director] Right.
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That I was going to be unavailable for some reason.
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That I was gonna be working, and then
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I would say it that way, but I wouldn't say,
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I wouldn't decline the offer.
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I've never heard of that before.
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I think that's mean.
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One of my employees called in sick,
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but then posted a picture of herself
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on a beach on Instagram Stories.
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It was clearly live.
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Do I call them out on it?
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Gabby from Valencia.
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Yeah, a hundred per cent.
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If you're the boss.
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He's called in sick.
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You could be at a beach.
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I would definitely call that person out on it.
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A thousand per cent.
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I would probably fire them, too,
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just for being that kind of reckless and careless.
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If they're gonna lie and go to a beach,
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at least, have the sense to not put it on social media.
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That's just basic. (clears throat)
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Last question, What do you do if you
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accidentally like a crush's Instagram?
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Teresa from Charleston.
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Just unlike it, and pretend it never happened,
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and move on. (laughs)
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'Cause I am a stalker.
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Not like, with crushes, but I'm just a stalker.
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I have a private Instagram account,
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where I do my stalking from.
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[Director] Dakota, I really honestly
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think you have a new career.
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[Dakota] That was really fun.